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  • misshayworth5:

    The Secret of True Love Paul Newman & Joanne Woodward

    They met in 1953, were cast together in “The Long Hot Summer” in 1957, married in 1958, and remained blissfully happy together for 50 years, celebrating their golden anniversary just months before Paul’s death in 2008.

    Paul Newman’s letter to his wife on his wedding day:

     “ Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.”

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  • Anonymous asked : I'm going to live a little vicariously through you while you're on your trip this summer, so don't get turned into a sex slave because that would really bum me out... But on a serious note, travelling alone - especially as a woman - is dangerous. Are you, in fact, travelling alone? What precautions do you plan to take? I hope you stay safe. <3


    Do you know how many opportunities a day you have to die? I vividly remember reading in my middle school health textbook, how the average house has more dangers for its inhabitants than almost anywhere else they’ll ever be. Furthermore, I live in one of the most dangerous cities in the U.S., in some neighborhoods here, there is a 1 in 7 chance of being a victim of a violent crime (crimes like rape and murder, not petty crimes like pickpocketing). Being alive is dangerous.

    It’s funny how everybody thinks they’re safest where they live, when statistically victims usually know their perpetrators, meaning most are better off in a city full of strangers. And why do people behave like human trafficking, sex slavery, is something that could only happen if they go overseas? It unfortunately happens essentially everywhere, and that includes developed first-world countries like the U.S. What greatly frustrates me about people telling me it’s dangerous to travel by myself, or any other women this, is that — well meaning, or not — it’s patronizing. It assumes I live in the delusional void of “that could never happen to me”, that I’m ignorant and naive about the dangers that do exist, that I need a man or someone else to hold my hand or watch my back when I venture out in the world, and most of all, the unspoken message seems to be, “Instead of fighting to end the dangers, fighting against the evil of exploitation and abuse of women, we should just encourage women to stay home and never venture out in the world.” That may be easier, but it’s the coward’s way out. If I don’t travel because of fear, then I’ve let the “bad guys” win and they control me. If you want to live life to the fullest, you better get out of your comfort zone.

    It just upsets me that people seem more passionate about instilling paranoia and fear into women and stopping them from traveling and being independent because of dangers, instead fighting against the dangers, such as human trafficking and rape, and the perpetrators of these crimes, so the world can be a safer place for all.

    What precautions do I take? There’s mostly only one: go with my gut instinct. Although, I also don’t go out and get drunk, leaving myself foolishly and unbelievably vulnerable. And yes, I travel alone. I always have. From Europe, to Africa, and now to Asia. But one is never really “alone” per se, I make many new and wonderful friends whenever I travel.

    P.S. Sorry, if this comes off as a sort of attack against you, I don’t mean it that way. I’m just very worn down from people telling me what I’m doing is dangerous and that women shouldn’t travel alone. But you should never ever make light or a joke of someone becoming a “sex slave”. You’re talking about atrocious crimes against living breathing human beings, that’s not humorous.

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  • "Did you know, you can quit your job, you can leave university? You aren’t legally required to have a degree, it’s a social pressure and expectation, not the law, and no one is holding a gun to your head. You can sell your house, you can give up your apartment, you can even sell your vehicle, and your things that are mostly unnecessary. You can see the world on a minimum wage salary, despite the persisting myth, you do not need a high paying job. You can leave your friends (if they’re true friends they’ll forgive you, and you’ll still be friends) and make new ones on the road. You can leave your family. You can depart from your hometown, your country, your culture, and everything you know. You can sacrifice. You can give up your $5.00 a cup morning coffee, you can give up air conditioning, frequent consumption of new products. You can give up eating out at restaurants and prepare affordable meals at home, and eat the leftovers too, instead of throwing them away. You can give up cable TV, Internet even. This list is endless. You can sacrifice climbing up in the hierarchy of careers. You can buck tradition and others’ expectations of you. You can triumph over your fears, by conquering your mind. You can take risks. And most of all, you can travel. You just don’t want it enough. You want a degree or a well-paying job or to stay in your comfort zone more. This is fine, if it’s what your heart desires most, but please don’t envy me and tell me you can’t travel. You’re not in a famine, in a desert, in a third world country, with five malnourished children to feed. You probably live in a first world country. You have a roof over your head, and food on your plate. You probably own luxuries like a cellphone and a computer. You can afford the $3.00 a night guest houses of India, the $0.10 fresh baked breakfasts of Morocco, because if you can afford to live in a first world country, you can certainly afford to travel in third world countries, you can probably even afford to travel in a first world country. So please say to me, “I want to travel, but other things are more important to me and I’m putting them first”, not, “I’m dying to travel, but I can’t”, because I have yet to have someone say they can’t, who truly can’t. You can, however, only live once, and for me, the enrichment of the soul that comes from seeing the world is worth more than a degree that could bring me in a bigger paycheck, or material wealth, or pleasing society. Of course, you must choose for yourself, follow your heart’s truest desires, but know that you can travel, you’re only making excuses for why you can’t. And if it makes any difference, I have never met anyone who has quit their job, left school, given up their life at home, to see the world, and regretted it. None. Only people who have grown old and regretted never traveling, who have regretted focusing too much on money and superficial success, who have realized too late that there is so much more to living than this."
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  • philosofly:




    sweet dreams are made of cheese

    who am I to diss a brie

    I cheddar the world and the feta cheese

    Everybody is gruyere for something

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  • wetheurban:

    SPOTLIGHT: Incredible Graphite Illustrations by Monica Lee

    Malaysian artist Monica Lee draws amazingly photo-realistic images with graphite pencils.

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